Post 1, the beginning.

“Avoid immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the immoral person sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been purchased at a price. Therefore, glorify God in your body." - 1 Corinthians 6:18-20

Introduction:

I want to say this first. I am not sharing for attention. I am not sharing because Jon and I owe anyone an explanation.

I am sharing because after 12 years together and now a sudden fast wedding, people naturally ask why. My ego says it is not their business. God says share about Me.

The thing is, God is hard to explain. His works are not tangible. They are things you just know deep down. And when I try to explain, I hear myself and think I must sound crazy. But to the ones who know Him, you get it.

And to be honest, a blog is a whole lot easier than having hundreds of conversations while we are juggling kids, church, sports, and now this wedding.

So I am here trying, little by little, to put words to what God is doing. To share how He is calling us into obedience. And to point back to Him in this story.

Post One, trying to start from the beginning 👊

I believed in God. I just didn’t understand what He said about marriage.

When Jon and I got pregnant, we didn’t want to rush into something just because it was the “next step.” It felt like giving in to pressure. Pressure from culture, pressure from tradition, pressure from people who meant well but didn’t live in our shoes. And I’ve always had a bit of a stubborn streak when it comes to that kind of pressure. So we waited.

We had four kids. We went through a pandemic. Life got full. Sports, bills, groceries, just keeping up with everything. And we always said, “We’ll have a wedding when we can afford to do it right.” A celebration that felt like us, not something slapped together just to check a box.

But something shifted in January. Jon and I started reading the Bible in a Year together. Not with any agenda. Just wanting to know God more. And without realizing it, something started to change. God was planting seeds. The lens I had on marriage started to shift. I didn’t feel like it was the time yet, but things were getting stirred up in my spirit.

I used to think marriage was mostly about proving something to the world. Or about tradition. Or stability for the kids. Like okay, if you have kids together, now you owe it to them to get married. But I’m learning that it’s so much more. Marriage, in God’s eyes, is sacred. It’s a covenant, not just a contract. It’s a lifelong union between a man and a woman that reflects Christ’s love for His Church. It’s about mutual support and faithfulness and living in obedience to what God designed for a relationship. Not in pressure. Not in guilt. But in purpose.

Those seeds that got planted in January didn’t really start growing until Lent. And the moment everything shifted for me wasn’t during some romantic night or big spiritual retreat. It was in the confessional. A quiet, ordinary moment where the Holy Spirit just wrecked me in the most unexpected way.

I’ll share that part tomorrow.

This is the beginning of my little marriage series. Why, after 11 years, we’re finally doing this. Not because we’re finally “ready” or because life got easier, but because God opened our eyes. And now that we know, we want to walk in obedience.

Thanks for being here. More soon.